We spent a lot of time on that trip ministering to each other and praying and seeking God. I was opening up about the anxiety I had over Christian and how all these things seemed to be pointing to him but I didn’t want to be making things up in my head just because I wanted to be with him. That’s when one of the ladies prayed over me and as she did she began to speak prophetically into my life. She said Christian is the one God has for you but first you need to drop all your own expectations of what you thought this would all look like. She also told me that when it was time to date again we would move quickly into engagement and then have a short 2-3 month engagement before becoming married. I remember exactly where I was standing on the stairs in the place I was staying because I had to sit down and cry but I was so happy I didn’t know what to do with myself. I’d heard stories of others getting crazy confirmation that they should marry someone but I never thought it would be me. Prophecy is always something you should take back to God and pray on and I trusted the woman who spoke it over me. There was also no way she knew that I was struggling with my expectations of what my future husband was supposed to be like and so it helped me to trust that what she was saying was Truth. She also told me to get a jar and decorate it and save money for my wedding. That same jar had enough money in it when we got engaged to buy Christians wedding band to the dollar. Crazy!
It was weird going back home and seeing Christian. I didn’t tell him what happened in Charleston because I didn’t feel that I was supposed to. Things would happen when they needed to happen. I didn’t know at that point if it would be years or months or weeks before we started dating again. To help me have somewhere to keep my thoughts, I started writing my prayers and my thoughts and my excitement over getting to marry him one day in a journal and I gave it to him after we got married.
We ended up getting back together May 1st 2013. It was nothing romantic we were hanging out at my apartment and I was up studying and doing massive amounts of homework for classes and Christian had been up talking to me but obviously got bored because he fell asleep next to me. I finally finished and woke him up and he sleepily asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend again. I smiled and agreed. May 27th we got engaged. Come to find out he bought the ring when we were broken up. I guess he really was confident we would get married. The engagement story is a story all in itself but it was at sunrise on Hilton Head beach beside the ocean and surrounded by our favorite friends.
We set the wedding two months out to July 26th 2013. People thought I was crazy for going so quick, my parents thought I had lost my mind, I at times questioned if I had even heard God right, and I’m sure some people thought we were with child 😂. I wish I could tell you how every detail of our wedding just fell into place. I had friends asking if they could make invitations for me or make my cake for me or do pictures for me and somehow my wedding was planned and beautiful in 2 short months. Christian was 20 years old and I was 22 when we stood up on stage and said “I Do”.
We’ve been married now for 5.5 years and I love that man more than I did then. Marriage is work and we’ve dealt with the ugly side of each others insecurities, became parents together with all the intense emotions that brought, and lost a child together. He’s been by my side as I graduated first with my bachelors then my masters and I’ve been by his in job changes and now as he started his career in law enforcement. We’ve yelled and screamed at each other. I’ve pushed him and slammed doors. He’s calmed me down more times than I can count and we’ve had to learn about vulnerability and communication and we still have tons more to learn. Our friendship from the beginning has been absolutely everything in our marriage. We pick on each other constantly and laugh together and he’s my very best teammate in this crazy life we now have with two little ones. I’ve never once doubted my decision to marry him but instead have often felt in awe of this man that God gave to me and how beautifully he compliments my weaknesses and my strengths if I let him.
Our story is my favorite story and I love to sit and replay it all in my head but I promise it wasn’t without lot of tears and struggles and hitting my knees in prayer over and over again! God blows me away with the way He’s led my life and I’m excited to continue learning beside my husband!